One of the largest considerations you have when deciding become a parent is figuring out how childcare works. This is probably one of the most agonizing decisions because your heart and your mind are constantly at odds. You have to logically consider if it’s more economically feasible to move to a one working parent household and if you do that what changes will need to be made. Add to the fact that stay at home dad’s are becoming more en vogue now – the thought did cross my mind, briefly. Lea and I had differences in how this was handled in our families. I went to a day care center for part of my childhood but mostly cared for by a grandmother like care-giver (Cousin Lula – where Mila gets her name from) whereas she was cared for by family her whole childhood. Now that grandmothers and even older Aunts are still in the workforce, families are more dependent on outside child care than ever. Childcare is a huge expense that is a hurdle that many of cannot get around. For us, it was always that we were going to be a two working parent household. We have flexibility in our careers so we are able to work from home or have abbreviated days without dipping into too much of our paid time off.
We visited some places and consulted my sister who has a background in early childhood development while making our decision. We found a center that seemed to be everything we wanted. They had an enriching curriculum, the staff was friendly, it was secure and in a great location relative to where we live. As time went on between the times we agreed to send Mila there and when she was ready to start we started to see some red flags that gave us apprehension. Lea decided that she would inquire about a nanny, possibly an in home or in a private residence. I was hesitant about it because in general…I don’t trust people. If I have to trust someone I want a corporation that will be responsible just in case. When we met Christen she was nice and her home was clean, her boys were a little rambunctious but that’s cool because Mila will be a rough kid. I waffled back and forth but Lea had a good feeling about her and felt strongly about it. I hedged my bet, we had the center save our position for a month and we would try her out. BEST. DECISION. EVER.
She completely lights up when she sees her. (Selfishly, it sometimes makes me a little jealous…) I feel completely at ease with her being there. Mila is developing ahead of schedule we know that this is because Christen keeps her active. She is engaged with her, she talks, reads and holds her when necessary. She has so much love for her – we could not have created a better nanny for her. There is a stigma about having a nanny. When you tell someone that your daughter has a nanny they immediately think of in home care and someone that cooks and cleans (i.e ‘you must be rich’ eh so annoying). Which I guess is fair – if all they do is watch TV. I feel like I would be minimizing everything Christen does by calling her a babysitter even if the general public maybe more comfortable with it. Just like with any care center we have to drop Mila off except its at a private residence where she can get the one on one attention she deserves. On top of it, my child is happy and overall cool so who cares what people assume right? Adult rule number 4,080 people that comment on others lives recklessly are shaaaaadddddyyyy.